Loose ends. We all have unfinished projects and situations that require closure. Maybe you need to have a conversation with someone. Perhaps a room hasn’t been cleaned thoroughly. It might be that you have left a possibility unattended and you could return to consider its plausibility. Since we as humans desire homeostasis, or balance, tying up loose ends and wrapping them with a bow is our inclination. This piece is about uncovering what isn’t completed and putting closure on it.
People, places, and things. There are a myriad of issues that could be unearthed for review to achieve closure. Since I am very visual, I tend to suggest that folks have a pad of paper and pen available so that when they get an idea they can write it down. Your choice. You get to choose whether you wish to leave things hanging. There are no rights or wrongs. I am just highlighting that we souls desire closure and to leave things hanging puts our energy askew to some degree. If one has made the decision not to make a decision, that could either satisfy them for the time or nag them if not addressed for reconsideration. Buried feelings, ideas, and plans will not disturb the person on a conscious level. That is why I suggest the pen-and-paper method of search and revive. If you don’t care to complete missions or round out a subject, that is fine. We have free will. Again, this piece is a suggestion for those interested in addressing open-ended situations.
Denial, repression, rationalization, intellectualization, and wishful thinking are just some methods of avoiding closure. If you do your personal work, you might find that that which was hidden from your awareness comes to light. Uncomfortable feelings about not having closure might just spark your desire to move forward. This is a process that looks different for each individual on a spiritual journey to heal. With patience, perseverance, and grace, you might find yourself smiling as you check off boxes that were left open for a while.
When the pad of paper begins filling with unfinished business, you get to decide when and even if to move forward in search of closure. Hone your intuition and weigh the pros and cons about what to do. Is the idea still relevant today as it was when you last left it on the shelf? Cost-risk-benefit analysis is fun! That is what our mind enjoys. Our heart is the final checking station. “Phone a friend” (your heart) and it will surely respond with your “final answer.”
Pace yourself. Rome wasn’t built in a day. This exercise could take days, weeks, months, years… a lifetime. Wrapping each unfinished business with a bow is very satisfying. It is a present you give to yourself.
This penned piece is inspired by a linguistics class I took in college. I learned that our brains want closure. “The cow jumped over the ________.” If we do not hear the word “moon,” we wait and wait and Jones for hearing this until we can move on. Consider that the energy involved in waiting for closure circles until we as an organism receive the last puzzle piece for finality. You have the power to fill in the missing piece(s). Healing is an inside job. I am the conduit hoping your curiosity is piqued.
Wrap it with a bow and send the gift to yourself.
With Love,
~Joanie
